7-Day Funeral & Rebirth Ritual
Bury the false self. Resurrect the real you.
1 False Identity Inventory
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Make the brutal list:
Lie they told me → How I changed → Real me I’m reclaiming
Example: “You’re too emotional” → Hid feelings → I feel deeply and that’s my superpower
Lie they told me → How I changed → Real me I’m reclaiming
Example: “You’re too emotional” → Hid feelings → I feel deeply and that’s my superpower
Then: Cross out every lie in red and say aloud:
“This was never me. This ends today.”
“This was never me. This ends today.”
2 The Burn Letter
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Write FROM the false self TO the narcissist (do NOT send):
“Thank you for teaching me how to disappear…”
Let it be angry, grateful, pathetic — whatever it needs to be.
“Thank you for teaching me how to disappear…”
Let it be angry, grateful, pathetic — whatever it needs to be.
Burn or shred it safely while saying:
“This identity is dead. I bury it here.”
“This identity is dead. I bury it here.”
3 Digital & Physical Purge
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Delete photos, unfollow triggers, donate clothes you wore for them.
Make physical and digital space for the real you to return.
Make physical and digital space for the real you to return.
4 “I Am” Reclamation
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Write 25 “I am” statements that feel like the real you:
I am loud when excited · I am soft when sad · I am powerful · I am allowed to take up space
Read aloud in mirror every day this week.
I am loud when excited · I am soft when sad · I am powerful · I am allowed to take up space
Read aloud in mirror every day this week.
5 Playlist & Sensory Reclamation
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Make the playlist of songs you stopped playing because they judged them.
Play loud. Dance. Cry. Scream-sing. Reclaim your joy, your taste, your body.
Play loud. Dance. Cry. Scream-sing. Reclaim your joy, your taste, your body.
6 Boundary Voice Rehearsal
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Practice aloud until your voice stops shaking:
• No. • That’s not acceptable. • I don’t owe an explanation. • My feelings are not up for debate.
Record yourself. This is your new voice.
• No. • That’s not acceptable. • I don’t owe an explanation. • My feelings are not up for debate.
Record yourself. This is your new voice.
7 Rebirth Ceremony
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Do one irreversible act the false self would NEVER allow:
Dye hair · Tattoo · Wear the forbidden outfit · Post the unfiltered truth
Take a selfie and write: “This is me. The real one. She’s back.”
🎧 Bonus Nightly Meditation – Reclaiming Your Authentic Self (12 min)
Dye hair · Tattoo · Wear the forbidden outfit · Post the unfiltered truth
Take a selfie and write: “This is me. The real one. She’s back.”
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